Norwich Counselling & Mediation for couples and individuals ending their marriage or relationship –
Facing separation or divorce and working through the break up of your relationship is a difficult time and can feel very emotionally painful. Sometimes ending your marriage or relationship can feel so hard you put it off for weeks or even years. Counselling can help you come to terms with your feelings, become absolutely clear that this is the right decision and acknowledge that the relationship is really over.
Ending a relationship is all the more challenging when it is not by mutual consent. Then the break up can turn into a situation filled with anger, guilt, sadness, and confusion. Most of us become very fearful and emotionally reactive, at this time and it’s not easy to express feelings clearly and calmly. Couple counselling, and individual counselling, can provide a safe and contained space to communicate and process these difficult feelings.
Relationship|Marriage counselling can also provide a neutral forum for mediation. This enables the couple to negotiate all of the practical and financial decisions associated with the major changes they face when separating.
There will always be a period of mourning following the ending of a relationship. It’s beneficial to have the impartial support of your counsellor, as you need time to grieve and heal naturally.
Relationships can end despite our best intentions. Sometimes people just aren’t compatible. You may leave a failed relationship feeling demoralized and under-valued. It’s helpful to take time to reflect and learn from past mistakes. Remembering the ‘good times’ also enables you to keep a healthier perspective and develop a more balanced view of yourself and your ex. In time, you feel able to let go and release negative feelings. This helps you to move on and feel more open and confident about your current and future relationships.
“There is no learning to let go, or trying to let go. There is just letting go” Lori Deschene
Sometimes you have to let go to see if there was anything worth holding on to.